Covid-19

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That is a tough situation. Why does your son's fiance think? You can't go forward though imo if multiple people in the family think the dad wont be safe to go. It is a lose lose situation. If it just the sister feeling that way probably can get away with it but if multiple people including the mom feel that way you either force the issue and there is tension at the wedding, or he doesnt come (not good), or if he does end up sick they'd have family blaming them for the rest of their lives. If you can get everyone on board and feeling comfortable it is a moot point though and you are good to go. Is the mom that old too or is she a lot younger than the dad? He must have had kids later in life?

Just curious, why is there a separate church wedding with just parents mid August? Is that related to coronavirus? Or some other reason?

The separate church wedding is because the Catholic Church apparently doesn’t recognize outdoor weddings, they want it indoors, preferably in a church. (I did not know this and it seems silly to me.) The Grove Park has a great room for the reception, but the actual ceremony will be outdoors. To change the room over from ceremony setup to reception creates a delay and difficulties. It can be overcome in the event of inclement weather, but it’s not ideal. We have arranged for our favorite priest to be in Asheville for the service there.

Both kids are very into their family and their faith, so they want to do it right. A big part of this is the sister who is so sure she is right about everything driving the problem. There are SIX daughters, and she tells everyone else how to live, from being vegetarian (that salmon you ate was someone’s mother!”) to the only kind of dog to own (which is in her mind a labradoodle). If she told me not to touch the hot stove, I just might do it.

The “kids” want to go ahead and do it as planned. Their friends have flights booked, rooms reserved, etc. The under 30 crowd is not afraid of this stuff, but she IS concerned for her father and would never forgive herself if something happened to him. Having said that, they could put it off a year and have no guarantees. Life does not work they way.

I personally think the mortality rate is grossly overstated because you can count deaths, but the math does not include likely millions of people who have been exposed/infected but are not included. But that’s just me, and I understand it is still very real. I’m keeping out of it and telling them it’s their lives and their decision. Be sure it’s something you can live with, and I’ll be there whenever you decide to do it. I’d lean more towards a delay, but when is it really “safe”?